After my divorce, I felt like I was stuck in a space that was holding me in the past.  My surroundings were a constant reminder of sadness and difficult times.  Even moving into a new home, it was still filled with all the old stuff.  I became determined that my “past life” was not going to have foothold in the new. My space was going to be a sanctuary for my new beginning and my healing journey. It was not easy, but it was worth the effort. If you find yourself in a similar situation wanting to see a tangible change, here are some ideas to help you create a home that feels like a fresh start.

Declutter and Let Go of the Past

Your home holds memories, some of which may no longer serve you. Start by decluttering and removing items that bring painful reminders of the past.  Aim for the easy stuff first, like maybe clothes that actually don’t fit anymore, or a chair that was left behind even though you never wanted it to begin with.  A couple friends came over to help me and they encouraged me to throw an old partially broken table out a second-floor window into the backyard. It was surprisingly freeing, and we laughed the whole time! There are no set rules for how you get rid of stuff, so have fun with it when you can. If certain pieces still hold sentimental value but make moving forward difficult, consider storing them away for a while or donating them. Creating and clearing space physically can help create and clear space emotionally.

Redefine Your Space

Think about how you want your home to feel. Do you crave peace and tranquility, or do you want it to be a vibrant, energizing space? Look for inspiration ideas on apps or in image searches. A quick easy change is to rearrange furniture or repurpose a room to reflect your current needs and interests. Even small changes, like repositioning a couch or adding new décor, like throw pillows or new kitchen towels, can bring a sense of renewal.

Personalize Your Sanctuary

Make your home a reflection of who you are and who you want to become. Add elements that inspire and uplift you, such as vision boards, affirmations, or photos that genuinely bring you happiness. Maybe there are messages you need to hear from yourself—consider writing them on note paper and stick them to a mirror where you will see them often. Use scents you love that have positive feelings connected to them.  Buy yourself some flowers to brighten up a countertop or table.  Incorporate items that make you feel empowered and peaceful at home.

Bring the Outdoors In

Bringing nature into your home is a simple way to enhance your well-being. Houseplants not only purify the air but also add a touch of life to your space. Since my kids have grown more independent, houseplants have given me an outlet in which to nurture something and see it grow.  Caring for them can also be meditative helping to reduce stress.  Make a point to open windows and curtains often to let in fresh air and natural light—both of which are healthy for plants while also uplifting your mood.

Set Boundaries and Make It Your Own

If you’re co-parenting, sharing space with roommates, or simply adjusting to living alone, establish boundaries that support your peace. Your home should be a place where you feel safe, respected, and free to be yourself.  A strategically placed window blind and new locks can help you have the strength to say, “No” when you need or simply want to put yourself first in your home.  Ask a close trusted friend to help you and share with them when you successfully set a new boundary.  Healthy boundaries define space for you to be yourself and are a significant piece of starting fresh.

Celebrate Your New Chapter

Once you’ve created a home that feels like a fresh start, celebrate it! Host a small gathering with supportive friends, have a personal retreat, or simply take a moment to appreciate your hard work. Your home is a reflection of your journey, not a stopping point to stay in the past—make it a space that inspires your next chapter and celebrate each step forward.

Final Thoughts

Refreshing your home after divorce is more than just redecorating—it’s about creating an environment that supports your emotional healing and personal growth. By making intentional changes, you can turn your living space into a sanctuary that reflects your strength, resilience, and newfound joy.

If you are struggling to create a home that feels like a fresh start and truly reflects your next chapter, contact me for coaching—I’d love to help!